Dealing With Spiritually Toxic People
Dealing with spiritually toxic people can be a difficult and draining experience. These individuals may have deeply ingrained negative patterns of behaviour and attitudes that can be hard to change. However, there are steps you can take to protect yourself and maintain your own spiritual well-being while interacting with such people.
Unfortunately, even in a community that is supposed to be supportive, caring and compassionate, you're still going to find the occasional twat waffle. It's sad but true. The thing is, we are all human beings, and even people who have attained a great deal of spiritual understanding and knowledge can still be dickos.
I have seen more than one person become totally disenchanted with the idea of belonging to a "spiritual" community because they had come to realize it's not always love, light and bran muffins. Usually, this occurs because they run into someone who appears to represent all the good and gracious things about the spiritual circle they belong to, to have them suddenly act like a high school bully.
Petty jealousies, lies, rumours, manipulation, elitism, energetic vampirism, and a whole host of other unconscionable behaviours seem to appear as their mask suddenly slides off, leaving the person they've hurt feeling like a huge asshole for not seeing it coming, not to mention supremely hurt.
However, just because douche canoes exist (even in places you think they wouldn't), there are ways to deal with Spiritually toxic people. It just means you have to adjust your perceptions a little bit when it comes to human behaviour. Understanding that when you deal with these kinds of shitheads, there are at least a baker's dozen of genuinely good humans that you can explore the wonders of the universe with.
Here are a few steps to help you manage:
NUMERO UNO - Recognize the signs of spiritual toxicity. This can include judgmental or critical behaviour, manipulation, a lack of empathy or understanding, and a tendency to blame others for their problems.
Judgmental or critical behaviour: Spiritually toxic individuals may have a tendency to judge or criticize others, often based on their own personal beliefs or values. They may make others feel guilty or ashamed for not living up to their expectations.
Manipulation: Spiritually toxic people may use manipulation tactics to control or exploit others for their own benefit. They may use guilt, shame, or fear to control others or to get what they want.
Lack of empathy or understanding: Spiritually toxic people may be unable or unwilling to understand or relate to the feelings and experiences of others. They may be indifferent to the suffering of others or blame them for their problems.
Self-centeredness: Spiritually toxic individuals may be highly self-centred, focusing on their own needs and desires above all else. They may have a lack of concern for the needs and well-being of others and may engage in exploitative or selfish behaviour.
NUMBER 2 - Take care of YOU! There is nothing toxic or self-centred about ensuring your own safety. The main thing you have to do is participate in your own wellness.
SET BOUNDARIES -It's important to establish clear boundaries with spiritually toxic individuals and to stick to them. This can include setting limits on the amount of time you spend with them, avoiding certain topics of conversation, or limiting your availability to them.
Practice self-care. Taking care of yourself is essential when dealing with spiritually toxic people. This can include setting aside time for meditation, journaling, or other activities that help you to connect with your inner self.
Seek support. It can be helpful to talk to a therapist or counsellor who can provide guidance and support as you navigate your interactions with spiritually toxic individuals. Joining a support group or workshop can also provide valuable perspective and help you to feel less alone in your experiences.
Practice forgiveness and compassion. While it's essential to protect yourself from the negative impact of spiritually toxic people, it's also important to practice forgiveness and compassion towards them. Remember that these individuals may be dealing with their own struggles and insecurities and that their negative behaviour is a reflection of their own pain.
Let go of trying to change them. Remember that you cannot change someone else; ultimately, the change has to come from within them.
Focus on your own spiritual growth. Rather than getting caught up in trying to change or fix others, focus on your own spiritual growth. Work on developing healthy relationships, building a strong sense of self-worth, and connecting with your inner sense of purpose.
Be mindful of your thoughts and emotions. Remember that your thoughts and emotions have a powerful impact on your physical and spiritual well-being. Practice mindfulness and be aware of any negative thoughts or emotions that your interactions with spiritually toxic individuals may trigger.
Seek guidance and wisdom from a higher power. Remember that you don't have to navigate this journey alone. Seek guidance and wisdom from a higher power, whether it's a spiritual teacher, a religious figure, or your own inner wisdom.
Dealing with spiritually toxic people can be challenging. Still, by setting boundaries, practicing self-care, seeking support, practicing forgiveness and compassion, focusing on your own spiritual growth, being mindful of your thoughts and emotions, and seeking guidance from a higher power, you can protect yourself and maintain your own spiritual well-being. Remember, you are not responsible for the toxic behaviour of others, but you are responsible for how you respond to it.
Oh, and if you happen upon one of these smooth-brained shit biscuits, remember, they do not represent the majority, so don't get discouraged.
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